Milwaukee Dating Blog

I never ended up getting together with that girl Jackie again because she sent me some psycho email and I just got totally freaked out by the whole situation. I did get some red flags from her earlier in my other date but I didn't write about it last week. The whole "incident" as I now refer to it is over... my lawyer got the charges dropped and he said if I would pursue a civil lawsuit they would reinstate the charges so I obviously can't do that. Well I could do that, but I would go to jail probably for a few months but I would be able to sue them and get some money IF I win. That is a big IF and I am too much of a pussy to go to jail so I am just going to put the whole thing behind me and make sure I keep taking my meds which I have been. I did miss one day and I felt a bit odd and I could of sworn there was a dog following me, talking to me, but I went home took my meds and when I woke up the next day the dog was gone, if it was there at all to begin with. So that's basically it for that, my boss is treating me like less of a freak lately which has been nice because I was not really enjoying him looking over my shoulder all the time.

As far as women go, I had been getting discouraged but then I said fuck this and I sat down all diligent and shit and I spent about 3 hours going through the online dating website and sending out messages to all kinds of girls. It does take a long time to read each girl's profile because you can't just send out a generic message to them like Hi there you look like an interesting woman, I would love to hear back from you. You also can't say stuff like Hi there you look like my type, do I look like your type? Please read my profile and let me know. No no that shit does not work, what you have to do is read their profile in depth and then you have to address the shit they put in there. You have to see what you have in common by comparing your profile with theirs and when you find a match you have to comment on it. You can't come off as desperate or needy because they will just ignore you. The whole goal is to get a decent message back. I like to use the words interesting and intriguing. If you say hi sexy or you look hot or really if you mention their physical appearance at all it usually turns them off.

I have had some decent results from it. I am talking to 4 different girls right now and the thing that pisses me off is that I can't remember what each one likes or dislikes. I think I need to create like a excel file or something with each girl listed and all the specifics on them so I can refer to it when I am chatting with them. Another thing I have noticed is that the photos girls put up can be totally deceptive. What I mean by this is that it seems all women have this built in ability to pose in a way to hide their bad features. The most common thing I am encountering is women who appear to be lean but then when I meet them they are chubby or down right fat. That shit really pisses me off. One girl I am chatting with is kind of muscular and she works out everyday of the week. It is hard to tell from her pics how nice her body will look in real life but at least I can see she isn't fat. I might meet her and think eww having muscles is gross because I am usually attracted to feminine women. She works really close to where I live so I am going to go meet her on her lunch hour sometime.

Things seem to be normal as normal can be right now. I have not missed taking any of my meds and I have been feeling great lately. I am going to court next week to deal with the charges but my lawyer is telling me that he believes that will be able to get me off of all charges because of my medical condition which is well documented. That is a big sigh of relief for me because I do not want to go to jail. I can only imagine what would happen in there if I missed some meds for whatever reason. There is no update on the potential lawsuit but I did hear that the footage of the cops beating the shit out of me also shows me flailing around like a madman swinging a metal chair and at them so I don't think my chances are very good that I will win any suit. My boss has been great but it does get annoying when someone is watching over your shoulder all the time to make sure you are staying on track. I mean I do appreciate it and all, and I know his heart is in the right place and he has the best of intentions but man he gets on my nerves sometimes.

Let's move on to some better news. I met this woman named Jackie. She is a nurse and she has a really big heart. She is like the most kind person I have ever met and I am thinking that she might be the exact kind of personality I need in my life right now. The truth is I have no idea what kind of woman is going to make me happy and satisfy me on every level but she is very different than most women I have been with so I am going to give it a shot and see what happens. There are a few other girls that I am exchanging messages with through the online dating site but none of them are as nice as Jackie. Ok, well there are 2 other girls that are hotter but I am not really making much headway with them and it is hard to gauge their level of interest in me. Anyways, I have been talking to Jackie a lot over msn and then eventually made the move to the phone. She has a really nice voice and I told her I was excited to get to know her better and meet up with her for dinner or something. She agreed to dinner and so I took her out to this awesome sushi place last saturday.

I decided I wasn't going to drink much, so I told her I would pick her up. I arrived at her place around 6:55 because we had planned to meet at 7pm and I sat there and waited. It seemed like I waited there for 30 minutes but it was only 15 minutes. As I sat there, I just kept getting more and more nervous until I felt almost sick to my stomach. I started to worry that maybe I was at the wrong address or that maybe she totally forgot about the date. I had a million things running through my mind and I know it's not wise to speculate but that is what I was doing and then finally she came out and I calmed right down. I got out of the car and went around and introduced myself and then opened the door for her all old fashioned style and shit - she loved it. We drove to the sushi place called Benihana. It is a place that specializes in Japanese style steak but they also have normal sushi so it is kind of like having the best of both worlds. The food was great and so was her company. She was so nice and polite, I felt like a bit of a savage around her. I kept wondering if she was a freaky perv in bed or not. Sometimes these quiet shy girls are freaky deaky in the sack. After dinner we piled into my car and I drove her home. I told her I had a great time and asked her if I could kiss her... she just giggled which I took as a yes and I leaned over and kissed her for a couple of minutes. We had a great time and I have been talking to her on the phone daily now. I am going to be getting together with her again this week.

I had another episode. How long has it been since I posted anything in this blog? Wow more than 45 days. I went out that night and got very drunk, well to be more clear - I drank for 3 days straight with some buddies. We kept hitting the strip joints then casinos and on and on. Of course I wasn't taking my medication during those 3 days and that was all it took to set me off. It wasn't long before I started seeing things. Apparently I started screaming in the casino in the middle of poker hand because there was a hippopotamus trying to attack me. You know hippos are the most dangerous animals in Africa and they are responsible for more deaths to humans than any other animal? I say that shit on the discovery channel or something and tv is usually the source of my hallucinations.

So I ended up in jail. I guess they called the cops and I punched one of them in the face. They apparently beat the living shit out of me in the casino and it was caught on security camera. I have yet to see the footage yet but apparently it exists. Maybe it will end up on youtube one day who knows. Anyways it took me a month to get friggin bailed out. I guess I don't have as many real friends as I thought I did. It was actually my boss that bailed me out finally and he has been a good friend since then and I finally confessed to him my medical condition and he said he is going to be my buddy and help me make sure I always take my meds and don't go off on another bender. He has a been a great friend during this time.

I just deleted my profile then canceled my account with the online dating site I was a member of. I have no idea what I may have said or not said to any of those women while I was in my fugue state. I definitely want to get going again with the whole online dating thing but I need to take some new pictures and then rejoin the site and then redo my profile and also browse through the site and send out some messages to girls that I like and I think are hot. I do know that there are a lot of hot girls that are constantly joining the site so that is a good thing. It allows me to start over and meet some new girls. I just watched the movie the messenger and it was really slow and depressing but good in a way. It was a study of the mind of a soldier kind of. It had a really weird soundtrack but Woody Harrelson was really good in it and so was the other dude.

I will update this blog again once I have done the above mentioned things and I have something interesting to report. Hopefully I can stay on track with things this time and go on some nice dates with some nice women. I heard there are 2 new restaurants that just opened downtown that I would like to check out. I really like French food and I think that one of the places is French so that is awesome. Talk to you all again very soon. Thanks for sticking it out with me

Well it's Friday night and I would love to tell you all that I am going on some fabulous date tonight but that is not the case. I DO however have a date setup for Sunday so I am happy. That means I can enjoy tonight and Saturday doing guy stuff and having a merry old time as I go about it. Tonight I am going to get drunk out of my mind. I am not sure how or where I am going to make this goal happen but all that matters is that that is the end result

I am still deciding exactly what kind of booze I am going to consume and which buddies I am going to hang out with. Earlier I had this ridiculous idea of going out and getting hammered out of my mind totally by myself and going and doing all kinds of cool activities but then I decided against that idea because I couldn't think of anything to do and I also realized it might be handy to have a friend around if I pass out or can't walk or start a fight or get jumped by a bunch of reefer addicts! I don't want no problems with no reefer addicts! (that is a line from a movie in case you were wondering wtf is wrong with this guy)

Well I guess I am going to first eat a steak and then I am going to get drunk. Between now and then I will be here typing this shit to you guys and also chatting with my friends on IM about where and wtf we are going to do. The good thing about my circle of friends is that I have some guys who are with girlfriends, some who are married and some are single. Some of the single guys are not going on dates tonight lol. Maybe we should have poker night and get fucked up yo! Thing is that poker games are only fun if there is at least 8 people and it will be hard to get that many people together on such short notice especially on a Friday night. Poker night is the kind of thing that wives do let their husbands do so maybe it is doable.

Anyways on Sunday afternoon I am meeting this new girl named Iona for lunch at this sweet ass cafe here in Milwaukee that I read about GQ. I really hope the weather is ok because I hate it when the weather sucks. All I ask is that it is sunny outside. I don't care how cold it is, I just want to see some sunshine please. Weather gods, please shine down on me on Sunday. My damn allergies are bothering me and my mouth is itchy and I am sneezing now. Omg this itch is insane. Meh I have to go now and get some fresh air before I go into a sneezing fit.

Things don't seem to be working out with Noel. I took her out for dinner at a fancy restaurant and the whole date just seemed awkward as hell and I felt like she was distracted the entire time. I asked her if everything was ok and she just kept saying everything was fine and I was like ok. So we finished dinner and I was like where to next... and she was like I think I better go. I was like what's wrong and I put my arms around her. She didn't say much so I leaned in to try and kiss her and she shied away from me. I was like wtf is going on? She told me that her exboyfriend who had dumped her showed up at her house last night and told her it was the biggest mistake he had ever made in his life and he totally regretted it and he wanted her back. So she told me that she was going to give things another go and so she couldn't see me anymore. I said "well this is fucking bullshit" and I stormed off to my car and jut left her standing there in the parking lot thinking, let her find her own way home.

So moving on, the good thing is that I didn't put all my eggs in one basket. I was smart enough to continue relations with the other girls that I had been chatting with online on the dating site. There is 5 or 6 different girls that I have been exchanging messages with and they are all really cool. I feel like a real player or a real stud being able to talk to so many different girls at once. Also I think I learned a valuable lesson in terms of how much emotional commitment I want to give away to new girls. I have a hard time keeping things really casual. I have a tendency to let me emotions get the better of me and the next thing I know I am basically falling for these girls. I can not afford to allow myself to go down that road. If I do that, I may end up with the wrong girl and I may make the same mistake again and wind up unhappy in 3 years from now or something like that. I have a really hard time dealing with women and relationships etc. I had a thought the other day that it might be better if I just stayed single for the rest of my life and if I felt horny to just seek out the company of a prostitute. I wish I was capable of being that objective and being able to follow through on such a notion but I know deep down that I want someone to care and love me and I want to be able to return the favor. I am working right now on trying to setup dates with these various women.

I am starting to see a new girl. My search for good girls has turned out to be quite fruitful. When I say I am seeing this girl that means that I have moved from first sending her messages through the online dating site we both are members of to talking to her on msn live through instant messaging to actually meeting her in real life and going out on dates.

This doesn't mean that she is the only girl in my life. I am still talking to multiple girls on the online dating site and also I am talking to multiple girls on msn at one time. It is a lot of fun and I haven't enjoyed myself like this in years. I really wish I had known about internet dating sites a long time ago.

The girl I am seeing is named Noel and she is the cutest girl I have met so far. She has a really really attractive face. The kind of face I could just stare into for hours on end sigh. Anyways so far we have been on 2 dates and both of them have been awesome. The first time we went for coffee and just talked about stuff for like 2 hours. The second time we went to the movies and then back to her place where we fooled around for like 4 hours. We never had sex like as in actual intercourse but we did have some other fun and it was just a really good time and I think she is the kind of girl that I could fall for. I know I have only been out with her twice and I need to keep my options open and not rush into something right away but the more I learn about this girl the more I like. We have a lot of things in common and I dunno there is a really great unspoken chemistry between the 2 of us. I am going to be seeing her again this weekend. I am going to take her out to a fancy restaurant and we are going to have the proper nice first date we should have had.

As for the girls I am talking on the dating site and on msn, well so far they are just for amusement. They are like my garden of flower, my garden of girls and when I think one of them is ready, I am going to pluck it out and eat it muahahha ok well not literally but you get what I am saying. I am just courting them all and whenever one of them is ready to meet I will meet them and see what happens. I am not going to put all my eggs in one basket and get all hung up on the first girl I hook up with, because that just wouldn't be prudent and I wouldn't be learning from my mistakes now would I?

Well it is now 2010 and I am feeling better. No more bad dreams and no more dillusions of vampires. I am back on my meds now and I am feeling great. The voices are gone and the imaginary people are gone. I am back to the old me which feels good. When I don't take my meds I start to have issues. I realized I can't continue to talk to any of the girls I met on the online dating site before when I wasn't on my meds because I don't remember what crazy stuff I might have said to them and I don't want to look like an idiot or scare any females.

I have been going through the online dating site and I updated my profile because I had some weird stuff written in there which is why I was attracting weird girls. Now I have a much more conservative profile so I expect to get some decent responses from normal women who are looking for a relationship.

I am not really looking for a relationship like I said before. I am not in a rush to get into another relationship but that doesn't matter when it comes to online dating. You can't find any decent girls by putting up a profile that says you are looking for something casual. All the best girls online are looking for long term relationships so you have to play ball and go along with it. You have to say in your profile that you are looking to meet someone long term otherwise you don't get any replies. The females know this too which is why they put they are looking for a relationship too. Can you imagine how many messages they would get if they advertised that they just wanted casual encounters with random men?

It is not hard to pick out the good girls from the bad girls or the girls with issues I should say. I have gone through earlier today and found what I believe to be good girls and sent lots of messages. I expect to get some good replies back today tomorrow and the next day. I am anxious to start chatting with some new girls.

I am pretty sure that Katalina is a vampire. She has pale skin and she is incredibly strong both sexually and physically. I only see her at night. She only has red wine at her place, the blinds are always drawn and the place smells exotically wonderful and weird. Sometimes when we are having sex, the way she breathes sounds like a demon... or more like I can hear hundreds of different voices so very faint. Almost as if I can only hear them with my subconscious. When I walk with her, just the way she strides she seems so very sexy and confident. I can only assume this is the confidence of being an immortal 500+ year old nocturnal entity.

The dreams began the day after we met. She consumed my thoughts and was the main theme of every dream I had. I wake up with shivers every night. The lack of sleep is messing with my mind. I wonder if she knows I have this blog. I don't know if vampires are internet savvy or not.

Even when I am awake she is occupying my mind. I don't know what I am going to do. I think I am falling in love with her but what is going to happen in the end. All good things must come to an end. Nothing good lasts forever. Every thing that shimmers in this world is sure to fade.

What happens when she gets tired of me, or gets mad at me for something. Will she bite me and turn me into a vampire also? Is that something that I want? Immortality would be nice. Super strength, hearing, perception, vision sure would be nice. That would mean that I would need to feed though and I don't even want to go down that road.

She wants me to come over tonight and of course I am going. I believe that it is my destiny to be with her. I think we are destined to be together in immortal love.

Let me tell you about the date I went on with Katalina on Friday. If you recall I went and got a haircut and made sure I looked ok before going on my date with her. I took her to that restaurant I had mentioned and the food was really good. None of the books I read about dating helped much but I did find a few websites that told me what to talk about and more importantly what not to talk about on a first date.

Let me share with you what I learned and how it all went.

The first thing I learned was to ask a lot of questions. The more she talks about herself the better. Even when she asks you a question, try and reply in the form of a question.

Talk about family. Ask her questions about her family. Did she come from a big or a small family? Does she want a family? Did she enjoy growing up in her household around her family?

Tell jokes and be funny. When a woman is not talking, then she better be laughing.

Test and see how intelligent she is by talking about complex subjects probably starting with science and moving your way down to art eventually. Her replies will give you a good gauge on how soon you will get bored with her brain. jk.

Talk about yourself. You are probably thinking right now this doesn't make any sense... women don't want to hear a man go on and on about himself... but you are wrong cuz they do. The sooner you tell them about your likes and dislikes the sooner you can determine if there is a match between you. When I read this part I was skeptical but when I tried it on my date it worked well and I found out while we do have some things in common, we also had a lot of differences.

Exhibiting good taste. It seems that women prefer men who are somewhat cultured and who can appreciate the finer things in life and be able to recognize and comment on them.

Sex. Do not talk about it unless she brings it up first. You do not want to appear like most guys and come off as desperate.

So that is all the shit I learned and read online before I went on the date with Katalina and I think it helped a lot. We talked about a lot of stuff over dinner and thanks to using the system above I was able to find out pretty much everything I needed to know about her. By the end of dinner I already knew so much about her past and also about her personality and her likes and dislikes. I was thinking about the summary of all parts and I wasn't sure if this girl was going to be good long term material for me or not. I was thinking that maybe we didn't have enough in common and wasn't sure how long the magic would last.

She asked if I would like to come over to her place after dinner for a nightcap etc. I said ok and we proceeded to her place. Like I said before, she has two young kids and when we got to her place she said they were sleeping at it was no problem. We could chill out in the basement. She poured me a drink and we sat on the couch and we were chatting about bs nothing when all of a sudden she switched the conversation to sex. I was like hmmm should I bite or should I leave it alone. The next thing I know we are talking about all of our sexual preferences etc and because I had told her that I like blowjobs she said to me near the end. How about I give you a quick bj before you leave and I actually replied "what?" "what did you just say?" and she actually repeated it and I was like omg didn't see this coming. She totally surprised me but what was I supposed to say or do... I was like ok and she leaned over and unzipped my pants. It was a good night and I still am not sure how to interpret this. I have chatted a few times with her since then and she definitely wants to get together with me again but for some reason my gut is telling me she may not be the one so I am not in a rush to hang out with her again until I sort things out.

Hello everyone. I am happy to report that I have a date lined up for tomorrow night. Her name is Katalina and she is 35 years old and she is also divorced. She said that she has a daughter and that her daughter lives with her. I have no problem dating someone with kids, I mean I have kids myself and even though I don't have custody of them anymore I am not bitter and I am down with dating someone who has kids themselves. She is an accountant and works at a small firm. She seems like a nice girl who just got caught up with some deadbeat and now has a kid to show for it.

I plan on taking her tomorrow to a restaurant called Lagniappe Brasserie which is this awesome French place I have been eager to go check out. I really need to take my car to the shop though because it is making this clicking sound in the engine. But I don't think I am going to have a chance to do this before our date tomorrow night. I am just going to have to lie and tell her that it just happened this morning or something.

I am pretty nervous about this date and I am going to get a fresh haircut in an hour or so from now and I have some nice clothes picked out for the date. I have been reading some online guides to dating and what I should and should not be asking or revealing on date one etc etc. I will let you guys know how this initial date goes.

I am still chatting with a couple of young girls on msn and doing the whole webcam thing with them. I am amazed at how horny and crazy these young girls are. I think that they would be fun to hang out with sometime but I don't know about any of them being potential candidates for a long term relationship. That's it for now, will post again after my dade with Katalina.

Hey it's Joe here. I guess it's time to make my first real post about dating. When I first joined the online dating site I was really worried I wasn't going to get any replies or inquiries and the whole thing not only would be a waste of time but my ego would be bruised and it would make it even harder to meet women. I am pleased to report that things have been going nothing but good since I joined the site. I have met 3 other women who are also divorced and they are all very hot and I would love to go out with any 3 of them. I have also been chatting with 3 other girls who are in their early 20's. I know they young and probably too young for me but it's good for my ego to get compliments from young twenty year old girls. One of them told me she wanted to chat with me on msn and show me some of her new bathing suits. I was like wtf is this for real... so I made an msn account and connected with her. I was sure that she would be much fatter and uglier than in her online profile and expected to regret the whole thing. Well guess what? She wasn't faking and she looked even better on webcam than she did in her pictures. She tried on and modeled about 6 different bathing suits for me. I have to admit it was pretty exciting if you know what mean cough cough. I wonder how many other guys she has done this too or lol was I the only one watching :S

I am trying to setup a dinner date with any of the 3 divorcees that I met because for starters just getting back out there I want a chill mature date with a mature women vs Jaegershots till 4am with some young shorty.

I am a normal guy living Milwaukee. I am 33 years old. I decided to make this blog because 6 months ago I got divorced from my wife. We were married for 10 years and we had 2 children together. We were unhappy for the last 3 years or so. We are still friends and we chat etc no hatred or bad feelings, just grew apart. My two children live with her in the house we had. I gave her the house and now I live in a small one bedroom apartment which is fine by me. I am a mechanic in a small shop and I like to watch Baseball and also I play in a softball league. I am pretty jaded now and I am not looking for a relationship but I still want some female companionship in my life. I don't go to dance clubs or anything - not my scene - never was. I will go to sports bars sometimes but I don't really have much luck meeting girls because most of my friends are married so they just ask act like obnoxious jerks most of the time. I figured I would have more luck meeting girls online. We shall see how it goes.